1 February 2015

I am unlimited

As a little girl, I dreamed .. and I dreamed. And those dreams were BIG! - I would be the richest person in the world, or the most powerful; I would be a superstar or a superhero (heroine in this case); I would bring about peace in the world or would eliminate poverty.

As you can see, my dreams were maybe unrealistic, but they were precious to me. I compare what I am today to those dreams, and I guess I have achieved not even a fraction. But when I really think about it, I have achieved so much more....



I had to leave my dreamland and face reality once I finished college. I was in my early 20s and looking forward to further studies - I wanted to do an MBA. But there was a shock waiting for me. My mom had started scouting for a husband for me (In a gujarati family, early 20s is the perfect age to get married and settle down). I was working at a local firm, wanting to gain some experience before my MBA. And here it looked like I would be shackled for life!

It was not easy convincing my mom that I wanted to study further before I even thought of settling down. But thankfully my dad listened to me and gave me one year. If I got into a good B-school within a year, then fine, else it was marriage. Mom agreed as well.

The rest as they say, is history .... I worked hard for the entrance exams and got into one of the really good B-schools in India. This made my parents proud and they were happy to let me leave Mumbai and move to Gurgaon for 2 years of MBA. My experiences at the B-school helped me to grow up, to become strong and independent and to look after myself.

After MBA, I landed a good job with a finance company. By then, I had also fallen in love with my husband (then boyfriend). After a couple of years, I got married and started my new life. But there was no happily ever after. There never is in real life. There were of course, the little and big problems that plague every marriage. In marriage, you learn to compromise even if it does not make you happy; you also learn to put another person's happiness before your own. So basically it was more growing up for me :-)

I also had to handle both sides of the family - see that both families got sufficient time while at the same time, my job became more demanding. There were some complications on my side of the family as well. And to top it all, my mom had to undergo bypass surgery and my dad also had a surgical procedure. All of this drained me emotionally and physically. At this time, an opportunity came to spend 6 months in Tokyo, and I took it - with blessings from both families.

Those 6 months of solitude helped to rejuvenate me. I had enough time to think and analyze where my life was going and whether I was happy with the turns that I had taken. I realized that in doing my job, spending time with the families, and riding through the rocky road of marriage, I had lost myself. I was not doing anything that I liked - I was just living each day, coping with demands.

I came back from Tokyo a calm person. I knew what I had to do. Of course, I had to continue working, continue working on my marriage, continue providing all the support to both my families - but at the same time I had to make time for myself. And that's when I started this blog. I love clothes, and I love travelling. But there were not many people that I could share these passions with. So I decided to share these passions with other like-minded people through this blog.

And I must say, it was the best decision. The blog started as a way to catalog my clothes and hopefully find some people who would like my style. But what I did not expect was how much I would grow through my blog as well! Not only has my style evolved, but I have also made some great friends in the blogging world. At the end of a busy day, when I go through my blog and read all the comments, it helps me forget all my troubles and just be happy.

Now I cannot imagine my life without this blog. Today, I am daughter, a wife, a daughter-in-law, an aunt, a worker bee, and many other things. But I am no longer lost in these titles. I am also me :-)

And the best thing - I went against my parents' wishes and first pursued my dreams (MBA). I knew they were not very happy then (of course they thought they knew the best thing for me - all parents do). But today, my parents are very happy and proud of me - they are proud of my degrees, my job, the guy I chose as my husband, and they are also proud of my blog.  

And I have realized that there does not need to be an "OR" (be a wife or be successful at my job). I can be everything I want to be (wife AND manager AND daughter AND blogger) and so much more :-)

This post is a part of #UseYourAnd activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette Venus

63 comments:

  1. It was nice reading your thoughts Rosh. I know you went through a lot but reading the last where you are content to be who you have chosen to be .. is the best part :-)


    Love
    Tanuja

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  2. Nice post Rosh!
    i like the green dress
    New post now on blog
    http://dimplekhadi.blogspot.com/2015/02/love-season-with-born-pretty.html

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  3. Love ur dress!

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  4. Love your dress plus the post is cool,nice reading your thoughts.

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  5. Rosh, I am so happy you stood up for yourself, that is wonderful... you are just as important as any other person. We as women tend to get lost in giving everything to everyone else and forget about our selves... I am thrilled you now take time for yourself too... xox

    The dress is really sweet on you xox

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  6. So inspiring post dear I really like it and I hope that you will be much more successful and all your dreams will come true :)

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  7. Wow rosh really inspiring... And yes Marriage is never easy even if its a Love Marriage..needs a lot of work n full time commitment..Agreed
    I know how what ur blog means to u..cos am in d same boat

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  8. Thank you for your comment! Of course let's follow each other, lovely blog you have here! :)

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  9. Hey Rosh, first of all thanks for the sweet visit.
    And yes I am following you. You are such a nice lady and you have really accomplished a lot in life; wife, mom, successful, and a proud daughter/ daughter-in-law. I wish you all the best and yes, we are here to for each other, not everything comes easy. And we do not have a guarantee of 100% happiness in whatever we have. Thanks for sharing bits and pieces of your life.
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    1. Thanks for your sweet comment Apeksha :)

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  10. Beautiful post Rosh...so proud of u.

    Aditi
    So-Saree
    www.sosaree.in

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  11. Nice dress, fits you very well :)

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  12. Nice post! Kiss
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  13. thank you for visiting my blog!
    followed you on GFC, hope you follow back :)

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    x

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  14. Great post and nice picture

    Mel
    http://www.girlandthepolkadot.com/

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  15. I love ur blog Honey.
    i follow ur blog too ! xoxo

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  16. happy to hear you stood up for your self

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  17. Hello,
    You have a nice blog and thanks your comment on my blog:)
    I follow you, could you follow back, please. :)
    xoxo
    My blog: www.mehtapslifestyle.com

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  18. Great post, love the pic!

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  19. Hi Rosh! What a fantastic post! Its good to know more about you! You are so right! We can be anything we want..we only have to believe in ourselves! Btw..would you like to follow each other on GFC? Let me know or simply follow me and I'll follow you back! Kisses
    www.fashionizein.com

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  20. Hi Rosh! What a fantastic post! Its good to know more about you! You are so right! We can be anything we want..we only have to believe in ourselves! Btw..would you like to follow each other on GFC? Let me know or simply follow me and I'll follow you back! Kisses
    www.fashionizein.com

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  21. Hi dear :) I followed You now via #836
    You are beautiful
    xoxo:*kisses

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  22. Wow, thank you for sharing this story of your life! You seem still so young and yet you have already been through a lot. I wish you all the best for the future and I hope your marriage will turn out beautiful in the end. I think its great that you are blogging and living a part of yourself which you can not live in your every day life. For me blogging is also a great thing to escape to some extent and to live other sides of myself :)
    xx

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  23. Gorgeous !!! you look lovely!

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  24. So stunning! Love this so much.

    Following you on GFC. I would love for you to follow me back. :P

    xoxo;
    BEAUTYEDITER.COM, BEAUTY BLOG

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  25. You're very pretty! Thank you for your comment on my blog, I would love to follow each other so I already followed you on GFC :)

    xx
    vanityflows.blogspot.com

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  26. What an amazing and inspiring post! I loved hearing all about your journey, you have inspired me to go that extra mile! Thanks for stopping by, yes, we can definitely follow each other! I am following you , hope to see you on my page again soon !
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  27. Of course I want a follow for follow dear. I'm now following you as catia.alexandrafr, please kindly follow back x
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  28. Hey, Rosh!
    Firstly, thanx for your visit (and now I'm following you!)
    And secondly, I like everything you said in your post, just beacause I'm in the similar situation now. I have finished my MA, bat I want to study one more university (OK, maybe 2 universities= )) ), bat my husband is'nt very fond of this idea. And this blog and blogger life make me leave happier and fullier life, not only life of wife and mom (2 years-old-daughter). But, I can get acquanted with wonderful people from all over the world like you for example. ))So, thanx for folloing me and for giving me the chance to get acquanted with you and your blog))

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    1. Lovely to hear that Oksana :)

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  29. Your outfit is so cute. I love it. Thanks for visiting my blog. Yes, we can follow each other. I'm following you on GFC.

    Pumpkin Emily Smiles

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  31. amazing post :) your life's story is amazing


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  32. Pretty

    Love Vikee
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  33. happy they are proud of your blog
    view my new post. http://melodyjacob1.blogspot.com/2015/02/your-freyrs.html

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  34. you're so pretty :)

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  35. What a heart warming post, Rosh. Look at your pretty eyes - I can see all your dreams reflecting there. You are a rockstar, keep inspiring, girl! Wish you best :)

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    1. Thanks for your sweet comment, Arti :)

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  36. Lovely and deep post you got right here!
    Your blog is amazing! Would you like to follow each other?
    Let me know and I'll follow you back xx

    A // Head Enough

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  37. cutie x
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  38. very cool post!
    xoxo
    Patinka
    www.patinkasworld.blogspot.com

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  39. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Like your writing skills.

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  40. Empty Sea8.2.15

    To many people blogging is a fad. I'm glad you have carried on with it. I blogged for 4 years.
    To me - blogging helped me get clarity in my thoughts. And then gradually I stopped blogging. I didn't need it anymore. It had achieved its purpose. It then faded away.
    You will go through that as well. So enjoy blogging while it lasts.

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    1. I don't know how it will pan out for me, Shawn. I hope it keeps going, but of course nothing is ever certain! So will definitely enjoy it while it lasts :)

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  41. Amazing post!
    Really heartfelt...and loved reading about your journey.
    <3
    Shreya
    http://fashionbaubles.blogspot.com

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